Tuesday, May 8, 2018

The Psychology of Winning


Denis Waitley

The 10 Qualities of a Total Winner

Quality 1:  Positive Self-Expectancy 
"Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."
  
  This quote discusses the concept of winning and those who are winners. Denis Waitley says that "True winners go into every event expecting to win". Although, this may make it seem like every winner is arrogant. This is far from the truth, winners are just merely very confident in what they do. They believe that they can accomplish anything they put their mind to. Winners have the confidence and drive that motivates them to try hard. They always put their full effort into anything they do. This is why they are always winners in whatever they do. 





















"When was the last time you spent a quiet moment just doing nothing - just sitting and looking at the sea, or watching the wind blowing the tree limbs, or waves rippling on a pond, a flickering candle or children playing in the park?"
- Ralph Marston   I completely agree with this quote. I think that this statement is very true. Everyone is capable of winning if they believe that they are a winner. Once someone has won a couple times they gain the confidence to do anything. Nothing fazes them from success. They have the motivation and drive to win every time.


Quality 2: Positive Self-Motivation 

"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."
  This quote discusses positive self-motivation. Positive self-motivation is both a skill and a characteristic. When someone has this they are a real team player and a very hard worker. This is the skill of being able to motivate yourself. There are many times in life where you are dealing with a personal problem and there is no one to help you. You are the only one that can get yourself out of this slump. If you choose not to and just give up on life you will remain in this feeling and will become unproductive or successful. But if you have positive self-motivation you can get out and never have to go back to this dark place. 
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"Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me"  
-Carol Burnett
  I think that this quality is a great thing to have when wanting to become a winner. All winners share one trait and that is a positive motivation. They never doubt themselves or say they are not capable of doing something. They know in their heart that they are able to take on any challenge that they might face. They don't have to turn to anyone else to get this motivation but only to themselves. 


Quality 4Positive Self-Direction

You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends.
  this quality is very important when it comes to success and life. No matter how old or where you are in life, everyone must have some sort of direction. Something they plan on achieving by going the right direction. Whether it be on the path to college, good grades, or a career it is some sense of direction. Although, having direction is a good thing there are some paths that are wrong. Such as the path directly leading to failure. Like doing poorly in school, ditching classes, not going to college, etc... Direction comes from within you a passion you want to follow. 
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"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go". 
                           -Dr. Seuss
  This quality is something very important to learn and understand. To have positive self-direction is the most vital thing every single person must have. You do not learn this from anyone else but yourself. It is the drive within you, to do the things you want. If you want to become a doctor then create the path of becoming a doctor. For myself, I have a path to success in becoming a lawyer. My direction is leading to college and then law school so that I can accomplish my goals. 

Quality 5: Positive Self-Control

Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals.
   Positive self-control is when a person can control their mentality and their actions. They put aside anything that may corrupt or distract their mind from success. People who have positive self-control have only one thing in their mind and that is winning. They control themselves from doing the wrong things. Such as ditching class, not doing homework, etc... 
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"Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control; these three alone lead one to sovereign power". 
                       -Alfred Lord Tennyson
This quality taught me the importance of self-control. To have self-control is very important. This one of the major key steps in achieving success. Self-control makes you more focus and gives you the drive to do better. You do not get angry or yell when you have positive self-control. Your mind teaches you on how to maintain these emotions and turn them into positive things.  

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Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem

Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.
 To have a positive self-esteem is when you think optimistically about yourself and everything. You don't have a single negative thought. When a person thinks positively about themselves everything changes. They feel more confident and like a winner. In their mind, they are a winner and no one can tell them otherwise. The way they interact with others is always positive. It is clear to see when someone has a positive self-esteem because it reflects upon anything they do. 
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 “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”  ~ Buddha
  I believe that having a positive self-esteem is a very important quality to have. This gives you an extra boost in confidence to accomplish your goals. Someone who doesn't have a positive self-esteem may always think very negatively about themselves all the time. Thus, lowering their confidence and limiting what they can and can not do. But if you this more optimistically you push yourself harder to work for the things you want. 

Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimension
Total winners like in the present. They know that now is all there is. They don’t get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is the stuff going on today, now.
   Positive self-dimension is when one lives and focuses on the present. Nothing in the past comes to their mind because they only worry about now. They live in the moment and not fear for what comes next. Many people are always concerned about the future but yet do nothing in the present. You cannot change the future if you do nothing with the time you are currently living in. The present is what matters the most. 
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"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present".
                        - Jim Rohn
   I believe that this quality is very important to learn. I believe that the present is more important than the future. If you do not start creating a path for yourself now there will be nothing in the future. You cannot wait on the future forever, rather use your time wisely now. What you do now will greatly impact the future. If you don't think about the present there will be nothing to look forward to in the future.  

Quality 9: Positive Self-Awareness
Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination.
  Positive self-awareness is when someone knows their worth. They never put themselves down or limit their capabilities. Even though they know they are good at what they do they do not allow it to get to their head. They are not arrogant they humble themselves. They are always winners but also team players. Nothing can stop who has positive self-awareness. 
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"I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards being a champion"
- Billie Jean King

Quality 10: Positive Action

Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other
  Positive action is when you take action. People who utilize positive action don't wait around for something they want to come to them. They take action and get what they want. They are hard working people driven by their goals. Every goal in their checklist is checked off or almost completed. Theor actions reflect upon themselves they are always willing to help others take action.
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"Your positive action combined with positive thinking results in success" 
                            -Shiv Khera 
 I believe that is this is a great quality to learn. Everyone should have positive action and take on their aspirations. You cannot just wait around for things to come. Good things only come to those who work hard for it. I definitely have the positive action quality. I am a very goal driven person who gets what they need to be done. I like to achieve my goals as soon as possible. 

Friday, May 4, 2018

Ten Tips for Being More Truthful
Barbara A. Lewis
Wife, mother, religious worker, national award-winning author and educator  
The Ten Tips
  1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.
  2. Tell someone about your commitment.
  3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
  4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
  5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out part of it.
  6. Don't indulge in little white lies.
  7. Watch out for silent lies.
  8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
  9. Talk to yourself.
  10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth

   The "Ten tips for being more truthful" by Barbara A. Lewis is a list about how to be a good honest person. It teaches you not to lie and be careful when it comes to being sarcastic. This is good because there are times when you are talking to your friends and you are jokingly sarcastic with them but you never tell them you are joking. By reading these tips you learn how to control that and always reveal the truth so it does not continue on. Learning about these tips will benefit me in many ways. Such as improving my qualities of being an always honest person. I am working on number four of the ten tips. This is helpful because there are times when my friends think I am actually being serious when in reality I am just being sarcastic. I will incorporate this into my life planning goal journal to remind myself to always be an honest person. Being 100% honest is the best thing someone can be.  

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